Why the loneliness epidemic is tough to face!

Loneliness has increased and is problematic for several reasons. First of all it is extremely unpleasant as a feeling/sensation to cope with but additionally there are other associations too such as feelings of shame, feeling like a failure and isolation.

Often when we consider 'loneliness' it conjures up images of elderly people perhaps living alone however recent studies have shed some light on the actual situation within the UK. 'Young Women's Trust' has revealed research showing that one on four of of females aged between eighteen and thirty experience loneliness! This is a worrying amount of young women and it has also been discovered that those living in a city are even more at risk - London statistics tell us that 27% of the population there are actually lonely.

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Loneliness has become so prevalent that Teresa May assigned a Minister for Loneliness. This communicates something important: Firstly that the issue is being taken seriously and secondly if it merits a Minister then it is an epidemic of concerning proportions! Studies have shown that there will be a 26% increased likelihood of death in relation to suffering from loneliness.

Combating this epidemic may not be so simple! What seems to becoming clear is that loneliness and isolation are not really the same thing. You may of course feel lonely as a result of isolation and vice versa however people very often claim that it is at their most lonely times that they were surrounded by others! So constant social interactions with people left, right and center may or may not combat loneliness.

The impact of social media is varied as it could well result in some actual face to face meetings which are durable and enriching. Research has shown though that young women with the most friends/followers are more likely to be the lonely ones. This may indicate the potential 'facade' of social media or alternatively that social media may be a substitute for face to face contact. With social anxiety and teenage angst as real issues for young women social media perhaps offers a safer platform for social interactions.

Information has concluded something rather alarming - Loneliness can be contagious! Spending time around people with loneliness can have a knock on effect! This is perhaps why listening and knowing how to sign post people is crucial in such circumstances.

Listening and active listening is key. If someone really attempts to understand you and your feelings it can be like a breath of fresh air and offer validation to the situation. So for some it may be additional support from counselling services- as loneliness can be the result of low self esteem and other issues which may need to be discussed to get to the root of the issue. For some it could be the case of living remotely or not being able to drive to groups/friends very easily. Loneliness is only a problem if you are living less well and hurting because of it. Many young women may at certain times choose to have less contact with others to protect them selves from bullying/judgement and this may be the best choice for them at this particular time.

Loneliness can perhaps be tackled but it is essential for young women to know they are not alone with this - it is real and the more it is mentioned and spoken of - the shame attached can be minimized.